Good News Thursday is all about sharing the GOOD things that happen in our lives.
Hooraaaay for Accountability!
It is a joyful day indeed when a teen actually starts to practice accountability. This past week, my oldest (who is 16 yrs old) got into an altercation at school. No, not a fight! If it had been a fight, that’s what I would have called it. That’s not the important part. The important part is that instead of lying to teachers, the principal, and myself, he took responsibility for his part of the problem. Yes, even with me.
You have to know my teen to know how absolutely ‘Good News’ worthy this was – is. In the past, he would try to stay out of trouble by blaming it all on someone else. He would have waited for the principal to notify me of the problem. When confronted, he would have ‘doctored’ his story to make him look less guilty. Miracle of miracles, these things did not happen this time. The day it happened, he came in from school, came to the table to do homework, and said, “I have to tell you about something that happened today at school.”
His punishment at school was very minimal; three days of ISS (In School Suspension). Normally he would be grounded for his part in this whole scenario, mainly because I would not get the whole, real truth the first time told, and would have had to extract it like a painful infected tooth. There would have been yelling, crying, frustration and anger. To me the truth is all important; I won’t – don’t – tolerate lying.
So, because he was truthful with me, and accepted responsibility for what he had done, we had a discussion about how the situation could have been handled to keep it from becoming volatile enough that he got in trouble, as well as the other student.
No yelling. No arguements. No crying. No grounding.
Communication. Acceptance. Responsibility. Trust.
This morning he told me that because he hasn’t been reprimanded in ISS at all, they may let him off a day early. This is no easy feat for him, as he is highly ADHD. I am so proud of him. He’s finally growing up.
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